Awakening the Divine Masculine

Although a lot of my work is around the divine feminine I am also fully aware that the divine masculine needs encouraging out too.

I believe we are all a mixture of both and delving into the positive and negative qualities of the masculine and feminine can allow us to notice where we’re out of balance and take steps to readdress this.

A couple of years ago I was drawn to create a workshop just for men- to hold a share circle and see what their experience with the divine feminine was and how they had experienced unconditional love in their lives and if they thought it was lacking.

I compiled a survey called Awakening the Feminine in Men to find out more about men’s connection with their divine feminine aspect before creating the workshop and sent it around my contacts to conscious men.

Here are some of the questions I asked:

Do you feel you recognise your softer yin qualities as much as much as the outward masculine side of you?

Do you feel you have to hide your true feelings?

Do you feel masculine and feminine energies are currently imbalanced on the planet?

Have you ever suppressed your emotions due to feeling unmanly? This particular question was 90% answered yes which was expected but also so sad to realise.

It was a scary prospect for me to hold space for men but I offered the workshop free of charge at a conscious festival where people seem to be open minded and open-hearted. As expected a couple of the participants were a little put out of place by a woman holding a male only event.

However, the majority of the men gave me really positive feedback and I learned a lot from the session which I hope will enable me to be more understanding in my work with men in the future.

A few of the men shared deeply in the group and even shed tears, letting go deeply.

Now I teach regular yoga classes for homeless people and at a recovery centre where people are trying to come out of addiction.

The majority of students that come to these classes are men. My healing yoga classes tend to break down the walls they have built to their vulnerability- obviously gently and in a relaxed setting- so they can fully drop into the soothing nature of yoga and meditation.

At the end of the class when they are lying in sivasana and I give them the gentlest of head massages with some lavender oil. I know it’s probably a long time since they’ve felt that unconditionally loving touch- and I know how necessary it is.

I’m lucky enough to have a partner who is working with the 4 male archetypes of men (lover, king, magician and warrior) and is trying to bring them all into harmony in his life to be an example for other men.

He recently went on retreat with the incredible teacher Craig White who is running these much needed men’s retreats. https://www.craigwhitecoaching.com/craig-white-mens-coach-offerings/mens-retreats/

I watched a documentary the other day about a programme that runs in a prison that uses share circles to help the inmates release built up painful emotion. It is so powerful and taught me how we are all looking for love and the people who may be the most aggressive are more than likely those who have suffered the biggest traumas in their lives and experienced the least love.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b09c1rch

I hold a strong prayer and intention that we are able to help men to release the old paradigm patterns, conditioning and beliefs of “boys don’t cry” and it’s “sissy” to show emotion.

Instead I hope to bring my boy up to be proud of showing emotion openly- knowing it is actually the bravest thing to allow yourself to be vulnerable to others.

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